Regrets should only ever serve one purpose in our lives. To help us learn something and make changes for future decisions.
Many of us go through life filled with regrets. The should have, would have, could have thoughts dominating our thoughts. The what ifs and I wish thoughts consuming our minds.
These thoughts generally only lead to one place. Negative feelings about ourselves and negative thoughts that come with those feelings. We can sink into the quicksand of self blame and living in the past.
If we allow ourselves to have regrets at all, we should be sure that coupled with the should, would, could, what if and I wish we have the what can I do differently going forward. How can I work to not repeat this choice or behavior in the future.
This is truly the only positive purpose of regrets in our lives.
We should also strive to have very few regrets. Regrets are a result of an inability to accept what has already occurred. To know that there is no changing the past and that living there does nothing to move us forward.
But we are human and as such we will sometimes have regrets that make their way into our daily thoughts. These are the ones that need to serve a purpose. A path to knowing better so we do better.
when we know better, we can choose to do better.
Regrets can be all consuming if we fall into their negativity and wishing we could change the past mentality. We can find ourselves stuck in wanting to undo what has been done. Beating ourselves up for choices and decisions we made at the time. Feeling as if we are a failure every day after these choices are made.
We only fail when we do not learn. We can turn regrets into success by knowing our regrets and doing better when we have the choice now.
You do not have to live in a world of regret and self blame. Learn, grow, know better, do better.
Every regret is a chance to learn something and apply that lesson to our lives going forward.