The coronavirus is bringing about all kinds of grief. The grief of losing people is tremendously heavy. The grief of separation is isolating.
The grief of the normal. Of your normal. The grief of what is missing.
It is okay to be sad.
Grief is like an unpredictable ocean as I have written in the past. The waves come and go across our hearts and minds. Sometimes, the waves are small and almost imperceptible.
Other times they are massive and threaten to drown us with their weight.
We are now grieving the normal. The normal of going to the coffee shop with a friend and chatting about our lives.
The normal of grocery shopping without fear or restriction.
The normal of going to work or school in our everyday routines.
The normal of gathering for birthdays and holidays and yes, deaths and funerals.
The normal of reaching out to shake someone’s hand or hug someone as a greeting or goodbye.
The normal of book clubs and poker nights.
The normal of sporting events from tee-ball to professional.
The normal of meetings in person and lunches with friends.
The normal of sleepovers and playdates.
The normal of weekend trips and long-planned vacations.
The normal of going to the movies.
The normal dinner reservations at your favorite restaurant.
The normal of living.
We find these waves coming on us unexpectedly. Where we start to cry out of nowhere. Where we feel sad and lack motivation. Where we feel angry and want to lash out.
It is okay to feel this grief. It is necessary to acknowledge it and to acknowledge what we are grieving for.
It is also necessary not to live there. It is important to not let this ocean drown us.
Just as the waves of the ocean, we can acknowledge and feel the waves and then we can watch them go back out to sea.
We can say to ourselves. Yes, I feel this way, right now. But right now will not be forever. The waves will go back out to sea.
And normal will return at some point. Changed for some, the same for others. But these waves will return to the sea.
Just like the waves in the ocean come and go, no challenge is permanent. Change is the constant in human existence, nothing remains the same forever.